my love languages

in no particular order:


1. coffee
2. sleep
3. quality time


1. coffee
i like it black. i like it strong. i like it... yes, i'm talking about coffee... and i like it served to me in bed. the last part rarely happens (but when it does, i'm a happy girl), but none the less, it is a daily ritual in which i feel no guilt in partaking of. this past year in particular, has made coffee not only a love, but a survival tactic. i'm new to the mom world, earning my badges in late night gas, teething, growing pains, sugar highs, bad dreams and ungodly, gruesome early mornings, so coffee has become a necessity of sorts. lattes? caramel machiatto? chai? white mocha? pppffffff. might as well give me water. but give me a french pressed, dark roast cup of coffee and ZING! i'm alive and loving jesus... 

2. sleep
for very obvious reasons, i love sleep but rarely get any of it... so... see above.

3. quality time
not a gifts girl. i'm horrible at gift giving. and when i get a gift i instantly think, "um. i feel guilty." or, "crap. i forgot to get them one." not a physical touch girl. i like hugs. i like to mean it when i give them. but. don't sit on my lap or let your leg touch mine even though we are all squished on the same couch. ew.
nope. 
i'm a quality time girl.
what does this mean?
well, it means i like to spend quality, face to face time with the most important people in my life.  and for me, personally, i can tend to feel overwhelmed if i have too many meetings or friend visits or activities/church events lined up. because... i also like quality time to MYSELF. and i really like my time with my jesus. i'm emotionally at my best when i limit my activities and my social times. if i don't, i tend to feel spent. a revolving door of people and activities cannot fill my love tank like a nice night at home with just my family can. if i don't answer my phone, it very well may be that i'm busy (because a lot of the time i am), or... and please don't take offense... i'm busy just being not busy. jason and i sit down and talk about our priorities and where our hearts are at all the time just to stay the course to keep the first things first. but i think what i'm going to add on is, not just a list of things i'm going to do, but a list of things i'm not going to do. and i'm going to be really good at saying, "no." i'm learning more and more how to do this thing called life. and saying no doesn't mean i'm saying no to anyone personally... it means i'm mostly guarding my most heartfelt "yes" to all the things and people that i feel i need to make time for and am called to. 

what is your love language?


xoxo, m