facebook.

facebook

k, let me just start off by saying that i love facebook. i love that it connects me to so many friends. i love seeing peoples pictures of their growing family, weddings, travels, etc. i love reading what's new in their lives. i love reading peoples funny updated status'. i love the way i can stay connected to so many of these precious people and can say, "cute haircut!" when they're in spain or, "i love you and miss you!!" when i haven't seen them in a long time. how amazing is that?! 

i personally (obviously) like to post pictures GALORE. why. because i like sharing. and right now, especially, i love posting pictures for abraham's grandma, grandpa and aunt who now reside in kodiak. 

facebook can be tricky though. and i've learned some things along the way... let me share them with you:

1) you can't really say what you want to say about pretty much anything especially politics or religion unless you're ready to be a) defriended by someone b) get a nasty comment in the feed c) get a slew of nasty comments. 

it's just the name of the game. and i've had to learn this the HARD way. that little box that says, "what's on your mind"? really means, "don't post what's on your mind. post about what's on your cereal box, er, something...". it's even hard to post a BIBLE VERSE nowadays without someone misinterpreting that as well and trying to tell you off about that, thinking you're making some sort of statement that threatens them! heeellllloooooooo, those aren't even my words! they're someone else's! (they're God's, is the answer, in case you didn't get that). 

the only reason i can see that people feel the need to always express their opposing opinion is because of something that they may have gone through in the past or something they're going through now. or maybe it's just one big misunderstanding altogether. i dunno.

so now i mostly post happy thoughts. which is fine, cuz it's uplifting anyways. you shouldn't have to know EVERYTHING on my mind. 

2) slimming down the friend's list, also known as "defriending". there is no good reason to just delete people UNLESS you're wanting to make a statement. "YOU PISSED ME OFF! I'M DELETING YOU!" *gasp* no, not that! please! anything but that! let me just say, in the heat of the moment, when you feel that THAT is the most revengeful thing you can do, it makes for a pretty awkward moment when you run into them in town. 

*crickets*

i've never personally done this. i've never deleted anyone out of spite. i've deleted because i was curious who you were and your profile was set to private when you friend requested and then "oops!" realized you were some sort of virus. delete. otherwise? i keep everyone. yes. all 715 friends and i are one big cozy facebook family. and yes, i do know all of them personally. now that i've done the whole "hhhmmmm, who are you. oh. a virus", i now only accept people i've met personally at least once. 

3) facebook has to be handled carefully. because if we're not careful, we will most likely fall into the trap of wanting instant approval... "you're so beautiful!" "you're so creative" [like button maniac]. k, i understand that in writing this it may look odd cuz, duh. i have a facebook. but hey, this is for me too. it's cool that everyone wants to be so encouraging. but you can't draw your self worth from what people comment. sometimes it can just be another way that we try to find value for ourselves. no one gives you worth. they can affirm it, but you have to dig deep inside and find it in yourself. 

4) you shouldn't try to set coffee dates with someone on facebook unless you're faithful to check back at that feed. i've missed many 'o potential coffee dates that way. in other words. just text me. 

5) you can't take things too personally. this kind of goes back to #1. if someone says something that i don't agree with, it's not my job to set them straight. i don't need to make endless paragraph comments. i HAVE learned this the hard way. yus. i'm opinionated. *raises hand* got me. but seriously, now i could give a flip. if that's what ya got's to say then hey. whatever. i'm having hot coco up in my status, so i'm having a good time. hope you're better on your next update *five minutes later* oh. looks like you are. you already updated. you adopted a kitten [like]. 

6) i've learned that if i facebook stalk, and, oh hey, you facebook stalk too, then chances are we have facebook stalked each other. yay! we're creepy together! 

7) just because someone's facebook looks peachy, doesn't mean they really are. learn to know people. 

k, well, i've had fun. i'm sure there's more. but whatever. here's a picture of my facebook! gnite. gonna go pin stuff now on pinterest... 

"BOOK FACE"